Hi, I'm Rachel!
I'm an online licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) located in Virginia, but more importantly, I am a recovering people pleaser and former 'good girl'. I understand all the reasons that bring you into therapy because they are the same reasons I pursued therapy myself. Also, I know how hard it is to be a client in therapy, but my personable approach will help you to get more comfortable with the discomfort of growth.
I'm an online licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) located in Virginia, but more importantly, I am a recovering people pleaser and former 'good girl'. I understand all the reasons that bring you into therapy because they are the same reasons I pursued therapy myself. Also, I know how hard it is to be a client in therapy, but my personable approach will help you to get more comfortable with the discomfort of growth.
That people pleasing isn't all bad, but that you can learn to please from a place of genuine kindness, not a place of conflict avoidance or fear. My therapy is designed to help you to understand the origin story of your people pleasing, unlearn what no longer serves you, and adopt new beliefs and behaviors that are more authentic to you.
I believe
Unsatisfying relationships due to the inability to assert one's needs and tendency to avoid conflict at all costs. People pleasers tend to be in and maintain relationships that keep them feeling small and invisible.
Relationship Issues
The appearance of being well-accomplished and put together, while struggling with clinically significant levels of anxiety internally.
High-Functioning Anxiety
People pleasing is a pattern of behavior where someone prioritizes others' needs over their own in order to avoid rejection, conflict, and gain approval and maintain relationships.
People Pleasing
These sound familiar?
Therapy will help replace unhelpful beliefs and behaviors with adaptive ones.
emotionally focused individual therapy (EFIT)
Therapy is focused on the expansion of self to facilitate more positive connections to others.
cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) & psychoeducation
Therapy is collaborative and uses your strengths to overcome barriers.
